I wonder how many out there thinks that an apology should come naturally rather than asked.
The past few days were horrible for me. I only found comfort when I go out with my friends and my little girl who were sweet and attentive to this broken soul. Luckily I had an order from AW that actually took my mind off for a day or two but still I find myself breaking into pieces.
During the last week of June holiday, I got news that my son now has ODD (Oppositional Defiance Disorder). Heard about this before? For me, this is definitely my first.
Starting from June till now, I didn’t really get peace at home or rather whenever he is around. He will do things to irritate me. I tried to hold my tongue, I tried to ignore but eventually I couldn’t take it anymore. After all, I need to set the house rule right as I still have a 9 years old that I needed her to abide the rules.
For friends who know me well, I treasure things a lot. Thus for me to take a phone and threw it across the room is something that I myself were shocked!
Miraculously it survived the ordeal, not even a scratch! But I was left with a small bruise and a sore on my foot. Perhaps you might say that I deserved it, for he threw his ear plug with a metal chain attached to it at my foot.
That gave me the excuse to confiscate the ear plug.
That evening, I was totally gone. I couldn’t stop crying. Not even when my hubby’s long time friend, KC arrived and joined us for dinner. Time for me to surrender.
My story didn’t end here.
The next day, he demanded his ear plug back as he needed it to do a school project. My helper returned it to him and off he went to school. In the evening, he made a nasty remark.
Thanks to me, he got detention and some demerit points as he couldn’t hand in his project for he couldn’t find his ear plug in his bag!
His dad gave him a scolding but didn’t demand an apology to me. Guess what, this morning; he woke up with a big attitude. He asked the helper to open the door for him. As she is attending to my little girl, she asked him to wait a while and he got irritated and shouted at her to open the door!
In my opinion, because he got away with the rudeness last night, thus he became more arrogant with his attitude.
I guess in time to come, all the female in this house will have no standing and we will be like slaves.
Now I only pray that my princess will not take any bad out of this learning journey and still maintain a sweet angel like she is now. She is my only comfort and I am so blessed to have her to give me that strength to carry on.
As for the dinner we had with KC, the credit all goes to my helper. I only flipped the books and pointed the dishes to serve.
This is Vietnamese Crab Quiche. I had some leftover the next day and V ate it and love it.
My daughter is strange for she is the only kid that I know that enjoys century egg.
Beancurd with minced meat and century egg.
Another version of Braised Five Spice Belly Pork. This one, the sauce is darker and thicker.
Stir Fried Bok Choy with Prawns.
and for dessert we had Sesame Ice Cream. Unfortunately we were so engrossed in the conversation that I didn't manage a shot before serving. So here is our melted ice cream.
I know I have to be strong and positive and I know I have to change to the can't be bothered attitude but as it is not me, I find it soooo challenging.
It is hard for a mother to watch a child digging his own grave and falling into it and couldn't do anything to protect him.
But I know I have to back off to save him from further harm and believe me, this is so tough and I admired those who can do it so easily.
Being parents in this era is totally different from ours.